“Love & Self-Interest”
by Kelvin Chin
Life After Life Expert
Where does the notion that we “should not be self-interested” come from?
I think one source is the angelic religion. Some people who have had NDEs and some psychics have had communications from light beings who appear to be angels.
Like many of us, some of these beings can become enthusiastic promoting their religious beliefs — which occasionally can even include worshipping them. In those cases, what better message to send to the humans than “you are not worthy,” and “to be worthy, you need to not be selfish and loving yourself is being selfish.”
Now, is this agenda true for all angels? No. Not all of them with whom I’ve communicated are out promoting their religious beliefs. And keep in mind, even those who are proselytizing — going “door-to-door” or in this case “mind-to-mind” — may genuinely think it’s in your best interest for them to guide you in that direction.
They may sincerely believe they know better than you how to live your life.
But for those angels who do that, that is often the first step to convince humans not to self-love, that self-love is selfish. And instead, to convince humans that to love is to “first love others.” Not yourself.
What does that message do? It creates insecurity. It undermines self-confidence. It ultimately creates dependence on others for one’s happiness.
And typically, when a light being talks to humans, those humans listen. Because they often incorrectly assume the light being is all-knowing. And, after all, you may say for example after an NDE, “But they showed me my ‘life review’! It was amazing!”
Yes. But we should not confuse power with wisdom.
And no one can look out for our self-interest as effectively as we each can.
My teaching is that self-interest is neutral. Neither positive nor negative. It just is. It is a universal reality.
So light beings are also naturally self-interested. They will tell you what makes them happy. Which might be following them. Worshipping them. Without any bad intention. As we said, they may actually think it is best for you.
But do you? Always ask yourself that. That’s your self-interest talking. That’s you looking out for yourself.
That’s true self-love.
Don’t allow anyone — whether they are a light being or a human — take away your independent ability to love yourself.
Actually you always have that ability. No one can ever “take it away.” But you can sort of “give it away” by not exercising it.
Love ❤️ is a powerful force in the universe. Exercise it.
And first and foremost, exercise it for yourself.
Kelvin H. Chin is a Meditation Teacher, Life After Life Expert, and Author of “Overcoming the Fear of Death.” He learned to meditate at age 19, and has been teaching Turning Within Meditation and coaching others in their self-growth for 40 years. He helps people understand their life challenges through their individual belief systems, and helps them find their own solutions. His past life memories reach back many centuries, and he accesses those memories in his teaching and his coaching in the same way all coaches draw on their own available experiences for perspective and effective analogies. He can be reached at www.TurningWithin.org.