“A Huge Source of Suffering”
Kelvin Chin
Life After Life Expert & Meditation Teacher
Being an “over-helper”!
Usurps the other person’s sense of control and Free Will.
Trains the person to be enslaved.
That “unasked for help” immediately feels like a violation to those who are more self-confident. And to those who are less confident about their ability to manage life it feels good — temporarily. Then it eventually feels patronizing and the person develops resentment towards the unasked for help.
We can see that with raising our children, in our friendships, in our marriages, in our attempts at social welfare, and in our foreign affairs globally.
And furthermore, for those who have taken my Afterlife series classes…
That’s why the “30th November” message was shared in 2014.
It was a marker in the spiritual history of humankind to make clear that key spiritual leaders involved in the world 🌎 for the past 10,000 years had decided that they too recognized that “over helping” causes suffering.
That by demanding obedience from their followers, they inadvertently caused those devout followers to be more susceptible to being bullied by others — others who didn’t have the kind motives that these spiritual leaders had.
In effect, by demanding spiritual obedience, these leaders had unwittingly trained their followers to become more compliant, more passive. And — unfortunately — more vulnerable to being taken advantage of by selfish and narcissistic people in the world.
Ironically, the more devout the follower, the more obedient they were — yet the more vulnerable they became to mistreatment by others.
In addition, this approach squelched the followers’ ability to exercise their Free Will. And the long-term impact of that — becoming increasingly less effective at making good life choices — has caused tremendous conflict and suffering in billions of people worldwide over the millennia.
So, for all those reasons, as was stated in the 30th November messages, it was decided that no longer would any of them continue to demand unwavering obedience or subservience for any reason, spiritual or otherwise. And instead, they’re encouraging us to see them all as our friends. Not our gurus, divine masters or gods.
More parity. Less hierarchy.
An encouragement to begin to view life more as an eternal democracy.
And I would add that since they have laid down the marker about this in 2014 to all of us here on Earth, these spiritual leaders have turned much of their attention towards educating and spreading these messages among all those on the Other Side. And we’ve been told that it’s an even more challenging task there, given the engrained beliefs in the value of hierarchies.
Kelvin H. Chin is a Meditation Teacher, Life After Life Expert, and Author of “Overcoming the Fear of Death,” “Marcus Aurelius Updated: 21st Century Meditations On Living Life” and “After the Afterlife: Memories of My Past Lives.” He learned to meditate at age 19, and has been teaching Turning Within Meditation and coaching others in their self-growth for 40 years. He helps people understand their life challenges through their individual belief systems, and helps them find their own solutions. His past life memories reach back many centuries, and he accesses those memories in his teaching and his coaching in the same way all coaches draw on their own available experiences for perspective and effective analogies. He can be reached at www.TurningWithin.org.